By practising gratitude, it is a way that we can we look forward to every day, how can we feel like we are in control, even it is just a little bit, it’s a lovely antidote to being grumpy.
I can hear you groaning, because you have heard this so many times before, so…. if you start small and then invite gratitude in more and more, it is as if by magic that life starts to feel better, and is better.
So, when we find ourselves in a stream of negative thoughts, that keep going round and round in our heads, something like:
“I don’t like my job” or
“I can’t look at myself in the mirror, because my body doesn’t look exactly like that super model” or
“My life just isn’t what I want it to be.”
or “I will only be happy when X happens”
As these thoughts go round and round in our heads our bodies tense and overall enjoyment of the day takes a dive. Research shows that obsessive thinking and rumination are associated with binge-eating, anxiety, depression, lack of self-esteem, and greater irritability and restlessness.
And obsessing about the past or the future can lead to feeling disempowered and frustrated. All we have is the present moment, thats what we have control over.
So this is good news because research has found that by training the mind to be here in the present moment, we can reduce anxiety, depression, enhance our focus and attention and also reduce binge eating.
When we are present and tuned into our inner wisdom, we have the greatest ability to tap into our potential. When we get stuck in the negative, our focus gets stuck there, too.
Here are a few suggestions to get out of negative thinking:
This labelling of thoughts, is a moment of being mindfully present.
You are able to see that you have been lost in a negative thought and can acknowledge it by labelling your experience, and as soon as you label it, the sting seems to go out of it, and it feels a lot easier to let it go, or put some distance between you and ‘it’, so you are not so caught up in it.
Maybe think of negative thoughts as annoying flies buzzing around you,…and just when you think they are gone, they come back. Use your imagination to swat them away.
You can simply say to yourself:
Not now, Stop, Be Here